While I do cuckolding as a humiliation fetish on a phone sex call, and sometimes I do use it for humiliation in real life, for the most part, cuckolding my pet only gives pleasure to the both of us. Pet loves to see another man pleasure me almost as he loves to satisfy me himself.

And with two very well-endowed gentlemen at my service, I was quite satisfied indeed.

But not only did this bull of a lover (named Mark) give me his cock for use, he sent me two very beautiful dresses to wear. I went to a vintage store one afternoon and bought a black strapless street length cocktail dress that I fell in love with. I brought it to our hotel and modeled it for my two admirers. That dress, as well as the floor length evening gown I brought with us to San Fransisco, made Mark decide he loved the look of me in black and dark colors.

The Cocktease Mistress in Black

So he bought me 2 other dresses – one is a black silk floor-length and one is a short dark wine velvet dress.

I will be doing a photo shoot next week and model all three dresses. The black silk floor-length I will be using as part of my vampire costume.

Speaking of prezzies, my little long-distance dancing pet bought me a pirate costume in May, and I have not modeled it yet. So I will be doing so in next week’s photo shoot.

I am so excited to be dressing up and modeling prezzies again! I do hope y’all will like the Cock Teasing pictures.

xoxo

Sascha

I have always been what is called a “Spatula Domme,” that is, I don’t have a dungeon or a lot of equipment, and so I make do with various items that I have at home, especially for CBT and corporal punishment.

Lady Sascha watches you torture yourself on cam for Her

I feel that this is actually better for my phone sex callers who would rather spend their money on a phone Domme that can talk them through a cock and ball torture or discipline session, rather than a lot of expensive equipment that they have no idea how to use.

And so I thought I would make a little list of some of the items that I recommend for my phone sex pets.

For a tingling sensation: Depending on how tingling you want it, I recommend Gold Bond Lotion, minty toothpaste, BenGay, or liniment. Gold Bond is at the less tingly end and BenGay/liniment is at the most. You will need some lube to blend in with the toothpaste as it will feel dry. Also to intensify the tingly sensation on your penis, you can put a condom on over it.

I DO NOT recommend putting anything as strong as BenGay or liniment up your ass. If you want a tingly sensation up your ass, use freshly cut ginger for figging. Here are some instructions on how to do figging.

For sounding: I do NOT recommend putting anything down your urethra that is not been sanitized. You can buy medical sounds at a good BDSM or fetish store. You can sanitize them by wiping down with alcohol and letting air dry on a clean surface or (my preference) boiling for 10 minutes, removing with tongs, and letting air dry on a clean, bleached kitchen towel. I’d also recommend using antibiotic ointment or sterile lube in the little unitized packets.  The last thing in the world you want is a urinary tract infection. Also you NEVER want to force anything into your urethra, especially with an erection. There is a certain way to put things down in there, and you need to know what you are doing – or have someone who does – coaching you.

So if you are calling an “insta-domme” and she tells you that, once you’re hard, to force in Q-tips, or even worse, Q-tips soaked in jalapeno juice or Ben-Gay, you might want to try someone who actually knows what she’s doing.. (and yes, I’ve been told more than one horror story about the above).

For binding and corporal punishment: I prefer a cut-off pantyhose leg for binding the balls and cock. It’s stretchy and so I am not so worried about cutting off circulation for too long. Some of my callers prefer shoe-strings, twine, silk scarves, etc. Whatever gets the job done is fine with me. Also cock and ball rings that you buy are fine, but I’ve seen that they don’t fit a lot of guys all that great. Sometimes you may have to try several kinds before you get some you like.

For weighting the balls: You can buy parachutes with weights if you like. Most of these seem to unsnap at a critical moment. I’ve made up a little Rube Goldberg type of setup that I share with my callers. You can ask about this when you call..

For snapping and clipping – I like rubber bands. I prefer you have several sizes and widths. Also I like you to have clothespins, but how many people hang out their clothes nowadays? Your basic binder clip, anywhere from 1″ to 2″ works fine. You can also buy nipple clamps, which can be used on the nether regions as well.

For spanking: Several different options here. I like my callers to use a leather belt, a flogger, a cat-o-nine, a spatula, a crop, a flyswatter, a wooden paddle. Any or all of the above is fine, depending on how much pain you can take.

Candle wax: One of the most pleasant “painful” sensations to me is to have candle wax dripped all over my pussy lips and ass. And I’m not even a painslut. I like to have you drip wax all over your cock and balls, cool it down with ice, then whip it off with with a crop or other utensil. I prefer you use the tapered dinner candles or the big fat stand alone ones. Do not use the religious ones in the glass tubes. The glass makes the wax hotter, and you can get second degree burns (blisters). Also you can control the heat to some extent by varying the distance between the flame and your cock and balls.

For anal: Although not technically in the CBT category, a lot of guys do like it along with CBT. If you are really into anal, I suggest you buy a buttplug or an anal dildo or vibrator. Anal toys are shaped differently than vaginal ones for obvious reasons. Some guys can’t have them because of their wives or gf’s. For these, I’d suggest you use a tapered candle. Make sure it’s long enough you can have a good grip on it and it doesn’t go all the way in. (An aside – my pet is an ER doctor, and most of you have no idea what things people will put up their collective asses, and then get stuck).

Ice: I use ice for a number of reasons in cock and ball torture. One is to keep the guy from cumming, if it’s an extended edging session. I might also have you put frozen “popsicles” made with plain water up your ass, or if it’s rounded, you can slip a piece inside without hurting yourself – after all it can’t get stuck inside. Also I use it to help with the pain. So you might want to ask me about it if you are interested.

About painsluts and cock and ball torture: In my humble opinion, pain sluts that are into cock and ball torture are a distinct breed of men. MOST men will lose an erection if their genitals are tortured. There is no shame in this; it doesn’t make you less of a man. If you like CBT, you’ve probably been torturing yourself for some time before coming to me, and for this reason, I listen very closely to you and your experiences. This is NOT to discourage anyone from calling me up for CBT – I of course will ask you about your history on this the first time you call or email me. But if you’ve not ever tried it, I feel it’s my duty to tell you it’s not for everyone.

I find this a very interesting fetish – so much so, that I’ve had 3 pets personally who’ve been into it.. And if you enjoy it also, I would encourage you to call me for a session =)

This blog post, like every other post on Cocktease Mistress, are my opinions only, and based on my experiences from real life BDSM and from phone domination. I do not profess myself to be an expert in BDSM or D/s. In other words, your mileage may vary =)

I look at a lot of other phone dommes’ sites and ads. Some of those sites that  profess to be Domination-based really kind of amaze me.

These are the women who are all about flouncing around, shrieking at subs, stomping their feet, and braying “It’s all about ME!!!” In other words, 19-going-on-5 years of age with a bad case of spoilt brat. In fact a lot of these ladies even call themselves “brats”.

That’s all well and good, and if that is what you as a phone sex caller get into, go for it. It’s all about amusement value as far as phone sex goes, right? And whatever gets you off.

But it’s not Domination, at least not in my opinion.

Domination is about control. These “brats” can’t even control themselves, much less anyone else.

Domination is about getting into a submissive’s head, inside his or her brain. It’s about gaining their trust, even when they don’t normally trust people. It’s about understanding what makes them tick and using that to push their limits. It’s about allowing a submissive to worship me to the point he’ll do whatever I like.

It’s about making something that is actually pretty hard look almost effortless =)

Domination and submission compose a symbiotic relationship. It’s not about one or the other, but about both. It can be a relationship formed of respect and mutual trust, and one that caters to both the Dominant’s and the submissive’s needs.

I do not raise my voice or lose my temper. I don’t have to. I rarely even have to order a submissive to do something – unless his head is in the place he needs that.. And if I do it, is in a tone that commands respects and harbors no backtalk.

As in just. do. it. now.

Even when I have a submissive in bondage – his hard balls in my hands – even when I have been torturing and edging him for hours, and he looks into my eyes and sees that cold fire inside my head – even when he sees no sympathy for his pain or frustration – even then, I am giving him what he needs.. and in the end, we both know on the other side of that pain, that frustration, is a euphoria that someone who is not into BDSM just doesn’t get.

To me that is what Domination is about… seeing what a submissive needs, and giving it to him. Helping him to that other side of the pain, the frustration, helping him to achieve that euphoric reward.

Just like dancing pet, who at my bidding, sent me a nice little money shot:

Dancing Pet Sends Me a Money Shot

BTW, thank you for that very sweet and heart-felt post you wrote, dancing pet, I do appreciate it

And so to my readers, and possible long-distance subs:

If you like, you can call me and see if I am the right Dominatrix for you. If not, that is fine.

Or you may prefer a stomping screaming spoilt brat who never quite made it past the terrible two’s.

And that is fine too =)

Roger is a bit “phallically challenged” I must say, and I love to give him a big dose of small penis humiliation,  but he definitely makes it up in the generosity department. After an hour or so of teasing him and getting him so hot and bothered by all the naughty domination videos of mine that I made him buy and then watch, I had Roger take me on a nice little Valentine’s Day shopping trip. We bought quite a few pairs of sweet little panties, bras, and nylons, that I will take pictures of and then sell to him. Who knows, I might even sell the lingerie itself to him…

I’ve already sent him a free pair of my panties, and that has been what has driven him absolutely crazy over the past week or so. He called me today to tell me how he simply couldn’t get me out of his mind.

Oh and I forgot to mention the nice big tribute he sent me as well =)

You’ll have to call me back again to see how I spent all that money, Roger…

Hello Lady Sascha

I just read your blog post – I see you guessed the reason I called myself ‘little Michael’

I’ll put a comment on it after this.

I also watched the video today and followed the instructions, though I have to admit that I had to stop masturbating when you re-started the count, plus nearly put my back out following the legs over my head instruction so I could shoot in my face, and I got myself in the eye as well!

I have attached a picture of my face just after shooting over it as instructed.

I thought the whole thing was very good, the techniques described were interesting and the shooting in my own face was nicely humiliating and exciting at the same time.

At the weekend I will definitely check out one of your other videos.

Thank you

Michael

Here is the picture he sent me.

Moneyshot Michael

Bye now

The Power Pussy Caller: This has got to be one of my favorite callers ever. I am the Evil Seductress, that traps this man by my wanton good looks. On our honeymoon/first sexual encounter, I pull aside my spandex panties (and they are always shiny spandex) and my pussy lips actually start undulating… emitting a noxious green cloud of gases that knock my husband out. Or sometimes, I inject him with a poison that immobilizes him, and causes him great pain.
I sit idly by, filing my nails, putting on make-up, while my newlywed husband begs and pleads for his life. Or I tell him that IF he cums, it will cause his death, now the the poison is in his system. Then I offhandedly give him a hand job, or squat down on him and make him cum with my powerful pussy muscles, while flipping through the TV channels, usually to see if Oprah or Maury is on. Eventually he does die, but only after he signs his vast fortune over to me.

The Cashmere sock guy: This caller is not only into foot fetish, but into sock fetish as well. I have a drawer full of expensive cashmere socks from him that he has sent to me from my Amazon wishlist. He likes me to make him grovel at my feet while I rub my sock’d foot all over his face and body, and stuff my toes into his mouth. Once I made the mistake of taking my sock off, and he told me after he came, that everything else could come off, but NEVER the socks. I have also sent him pictures of myself in his socks, for his “viewing pleasure.”

The Teeny Tiny Purse Guy: This guy is really into the Giantess fetish and gets around… I’ve seen him talked about on more than one PSO forum, by several different ops. He likes to be shrunk down to about 6” and put in my purse. Not only that, I have to describe the purse itself, including the name brand, color, fabric, and what it has in it. He likes a lot of things in there, such as makeup, keys, and tissues. I always find him in a big department store, and take him captive against his will. Sometimes we walk around the mall, and I feed him popcorn and cookie bits from the food court. Sometimes I take him home and put him in a Barbie Dream house, and the cat plays with him.

So here is just a small sample of some of the callers I get on a daily basis. If you like to read about these, please let me know. As the saying goes, there’s plenty more where that came from…
Perhaps next time I will discuss my theories about how some men form fetishes…
An aside: I hope it is clear from my blog posts that I find submissive men – both phone and in real life – and all their little quirks, fascinating. I hope you find it entertaining as well.
And if you are one of those submissive men – well, you are always welcome to call…

Lady Sascha is a Phonesex Mistress

Unfortunately, my chosen profession is stigmatized by polite society.
The funny thing is, like most people, I grew up thinking that adult workers were the dregs of society, with no hope of redemption, objectified for their bodies, etc, etc, etc. I am sure all of you have heard the same sort of litany.
That is not the case with me. I grew up in an upper middle-class family. I went to private or magnet schools all my life, given swimming and dance lessons since I was a child. I have my parents’ hand-prints embedded on my back from them firmly but lovingly pushing me through My first 23 years of life.
I graduated from said university with a terminal master’s in a science-related field, where I then worked in a professional middle management job for 3 years.
I worked long hours, and made great money. Yuppie-ville, here I come.
As a phone Domme, I work even longer hours, and, for the time being, make less than half of what I used to. So why do I do this?
In my professional white-collar job, I had a boss over me, who persistently pressured me to get more out of the people that worked under me. And I had people under me, who complained about their jobs, and blamed me for their working conditions. It always felt like a no-win situation to me.
By the time I quit, at the ripe old age of 26, I was taking 60 mgs of Prozac a day, drinking an entire 6-pack of Heinies more nights than not, as well as doing a host of “recreational” drugs to stay sane. Not a good combination.
And so I quit to be a phone Dommme.
Now I do not take Prozac at all, I drink and drug rarely, and that’s pretty much it.
I feel like less of a whore now than I ever have.
I set my own hours, and my own price. If I don’t like you or think we click, I don’t have to talk to you. I actually enjoy my work. I can get off several times a day if I want. Occasionally I do so with my callers. Most of the time it is by myself or with one of my real-life pets.
If I want to take a day off, I do. I don’t work under fluorescent lighting, and I can go outside to walk/garden/bike/play whenever I want. Or if I just want to take an hour off to nap or fuck or masturbate, well that is always a good idea ;P
And I have realized that the money I make is commensurate with the work I do. I work very hard now, much harder than I ever have in my entire life. In my old job, working harder resulted in other people putting even more responsibility on my shoulders, not more pay.
Now I can see that there are so many more possibilities for me – so many things to learn, like SEO,  coding, wordpress. Everything I learn helps me, and in turn, helps my little phone pets. I am just beginning to climb my way up the ladder…
I love it.
I plan on doing this for a long long time